Five Minute Friday

Five Minute Friday – Ordinary


Today’s Five Minute Friday topic is “ordinary” – so, here goes:

Ordinary is not often a word that is something someone strives for.  When a meal is described as “ordinary” it often is a bit of an insult.  But, after the last four and a half years of my life, ordinary is something I have often wanted more of in my life.  I wanted an ordinary pregnancy, not one that ended 7 1/2 weeks early with a helicopter flight.  I wanted an ordinary child-rearing experience, not one that had my daughter in the hospital at six weeks of age and getting a heart transplant at 4 months of age.  I often want an ordinary schedule that allows us weekends at home to do organized activities and attend birthday parties.  I also would like to have an ordinary home life, where people eat dinner together and do family activities together rather than having a husband who is often on the road for two or three nights a week and a job that requires me to teach during the dinner hour at least one or two nights a week.

But, when I think about all that, I also realize the benefits of the life that we do have.  We have a daughter whose health we appreciate more than most.  We have jobs that allowed us the flexibility we needed when she was sick.  We have times during the year when we get to have multiple weeks off from work (winter break, summer break, etc.).  I also have been able to travel with my daughter for work and that has been fun, watching her enjoy hotel stays and being surrounded by college students and meeting new people.  So, over all, although our lives are not “ordinary,” they are pretty darned good in many, many ways.

Thursday Thumbs Up

Thursday Thumbs Up #3 and an Update on my Reluctance Realization


Well, these past couple of weeks have really been draining.  I have been stressed to the hilt about money and being behind in my grading at work and being a bit overscheduled (that may or may not be an understatement) and not being able to keep my house clean and organized for more than a 24 hour period and the list goes on and on.  We tried to get my daughter to sleep in her own bed last weekend and that was a disaster which seemed to have the ripple effect of making her sleep poorly all of this week (it is a long story, but I’m just going to leave it at we aren’t ready as a family to make this work, so she is back in our bed again).  Things have not changed much about that list, other than the financial thing, which for the short term (probably a few weeks) is dealt with and much more comfortable.  For the long-term, I am going to have to do something else, but right now, I have a bit of a reprieve.  I am still behind in grading and work obligations.  I am still dealing with a disorganized house and lack of cleaning routine that leads to a total disaster at the end of each exhausting week.  I am still a bit overscheduled, although I did just skip something that was on my calendar today in the name of sanity and I have decided that I need to be STRICT about not scheduling ANYTHING on Thursdays – which is my only guaranteed day of a block of time without my daughter (she is in preschool) and without work obligations (I have nothing until a 3:30 class followed by a weekly Leadership Institute until 7 p.m., so 3 1/2 hours are booked on Thursday, but all else is open).  This time needs to be something I protect for myself.  I work a lot of weekends and every other day of the week I either have my daughter and/or multiple hours of work obligations.  I have viewed this as prime time for scheduling stuff that doesn’t fit in my schedule elsewhere, but no more.  I need this time for MYSELF.  So, that particular decision is not made with any reluctance.  I realized how important this is when I read Kim Raya‘s post on Adrenal Fatigue.  I definitely think I’m suffering from it – not because of the Narcissistic Abuse she discusses but because of my stress levels.

So, my Thursday Thumbs Ups (a little late since I didn’t finish this yesterday) are:

–A second job (got my paycheck yesterday – boy, does that help).

–Halloween decorations

–Thrift store finds

Going to go ahead and finish this up and publish since I’m already a day late.  So much more to talk about, but it will have to wait.  🙂  Maybe it will be part of my Five Minute Friday post.