Today’s Tuesday Truth is: Summer is Hard.
Now don’t get me wrong. I love, love, love me some summer time. But, there are multiple reasons why summer is hard for me at this point in my life. I’ll share a few to see if there is anyone out there that can relate to my situation.
First off, summer brings with it all these pressures to do things you otherwise don’t have time to do. Vacations, days at the pool, getting all those little (or big) house projects done, catching up on all the TV you didn’t watch during the school year, reading books, and relaxing (how are you supposed to relax while doing all these other things?). And, for me, as I see the weeks quickly slipping away with no book completed, no vacation taken, only a few hours at the pool and mostly for swimming lessons, no house projects completed, and the same old TV shows on my list of things to watch, I just can’t relax. So, here it is, one month into summer break and I don’t feel like I’ve accomplished anything. And I have a feeling that much of that will remain the same another month from now, as I’m staring down the barrel of a another school year. Sigh…
Second, summer is hot. I spent the last few days at my mom’s house, where it is significantly cooler, but she doesn’t have AC so the house still gets hot. Here at home, it floats between 90 and 100 on most days. We have AC, and I’m not afraid to use it, so our house always stays cool, but going outside and loading and unloading a five year old into a hot car is not at all pleasing. I often avoid going places just because I can’t face up to that part of the trip. And those days at the pool mentioned above aren’t possible on most days because it is too hot to go for much beyond an hour or so. It isn’t even nice to lay out or sit and read by the pool because it is so miserably hot. I could definitely do without the heat.
Third, summer is two months of single-momming it for me. My husband works at camps for seven weeks during the summer. So, we have about one week to do a family vacation, right before school starts. I have a five year old, all to myself, for most of the summer. It was definitely worse in previous summers when she was sick or recovering from surgery and couldn’t do a lot of fun things, but it is still hard. I get tired of being her sole source of entertainment (thankfully she has things like VBX and summer camps at her preschool to keep her busy for a few weeks of the summer). As she gets more independent, I am sure I will look back longingly to these times, but in the midst of them, they are hard.
Finally, I think summer has a higher level of expectation of fun. Everyday is supposed to have something “fun” included in it. I will say I think we do pretty good at this, even if the fun is just going to Barnes and Noble for some train play and looking around at toys and books, but it is a lot of pressure. Sometimes I just want to spend a day in bed. But, that doesn’t seem acceptable to my five year old. The summer colds we’ve had for the last week or so have not helped things at all. I’m hoping we are on the tail end of those and can get back to feeling 100%. I also feel like I have a lot of pressure to spend time at my mom’s house during the summer, which is difficult with trying to schedule swim lessons and camps and such. But, it is true that I have the summer off from work and I will regret NOT taking that time to spend with my mom when I had the chance. So, I was just there for five days and we’ll be home for five days and then back there for five more days. And we will probably go and visit for at least a few more days here and there during the next six weeks or so.
So, there it is – my Tuesday Truth…that summer is hard.
But, in the end, I love summer. I love being a teacher and having the time off from teaching (not work, because I still prep during the summer quite a bit). I love being able to do fun things with my daughter during this age when she actually wants to do fun things with me. And I love my AC in my house during the hottest days!
What about you? What’s your view on summer?