These last few months have me pretty pensive. I was sad for my mom. She has lived the last few years in a pretty lonely and unsatisfying condition. And now that her life has ended, I just wanted MORE for her. More friends. More fun and enjoyment. More life. When we are living, we should be LIVING! So, it has me thinking. Because I had my DD so late in life, I will be aging as she ages. And I want to age well. I want to be healthy enough to live. I want to have friends and be social and have fun. I want to have fun with my family and enjoy doing things with my DD. But, that will require that I am healthy. So, what’s it take? What do we need to do to stay healthy and happy in our late 40s (where I am now), our 50s, our 60s and beyond. After all, I will be pushing 60 when my DD graduates from high school (good Lord…) and I want to still be active and enjoying my life with her as she goes through college. I realize I won’t be able to do what the 38 year olds are doing (and let’s be real, I probably won’t want to be doing what the 38 year olds are doing), but I want to be a good mom who is there for her and who can still do what needs/wants to be done.
So, it has me thinking…what do I need to do RIGHT NOW to make this happen? What can I do EACH DAY to make sure that I am ready for that future life I want to lead? Let’s see:
Start building a stronger network of friends. I am working on that. I have three friends currently who I feel like are THERE for me. Two have children close to my DD’s age and I’m hoping we can all stay friends throughout their childhoods and on up to see them as grownups. But, I need more than that. I want a wide network of friends. I have friends but I feel like I’m not very good at making time to spend time with them (especially those who don’t live here where I live). I’m not good at setting aside time to really enjoy them. So, that is something I need and want to work on. Girls weekends. Family trips together. In addition, I want to be more active in my church. I want to establish better friendships there as well. I want a community. So, that is one thing that I need to continue working on as I go through this year and beyond.
Be more healthy. I am not talking about losing weight (although that would probably be a good idea as well), but just exercising and eating better (more regular meals, less coffee, more water, etc.) and taking better care of myself over all. I need to make a doctor’s appointment to get an annual exam (which I haven’t had the last couple of annuals – I use my DD as an excuse, but it really is just something I dread…I don’t want/can’t take any more bad news health-wise for anyone, but especially ME, so I avoid it). I need to get into the dentist and get my broken tooth fixed and my teeth cleaned. I want to start doing yoga regularly. I want to do the a 21 Day Fix challenge to get my sugar and carb levels under control and start developing some muscle mass again. I am currently suffering from what I am pretty sure is a Guttate Psoriasis. My strep throat a couple of weeks ago must have triggered it. And I know that not eating healthy is a contributing factor to these maladies. I also need to model healthier behaviors and habits for my DD. She is going to need to eat healthy with her heart issues.
Live it up! I often turn down opportunities to go out and do things and have fun. I’m not sure why. I want to spend time with my DH doing fun things. I want to do fun things as a family. I want to enjoy each other and our lives to the fullest extent possible. We have a bad habit of sitting around when we have time with each other. On our computers or iPad. When we should be out and about doing fun activities with each other. So, that is what I want to focus on – making memories. And lots of them.
Those three will be my main focus to start this focus on the future me by focusing on the present me. I will do these things in honor of my mom who often said she wished she had done more when she had the chance, who longed to have a community of people around her and who was constantly telling me to take care of myself. I love you Mamma!