So, I’ve been on this “myself” kick with it being My One Word for 2016 and all. And I feel like I’m really trying to listen to what I’m telling myself and see the messages that are being given to me by me and the Universe and God and whoever else is on my side. This morning, I feel like a message is being dropped on me like a ton of bricks and it only reinforces what I’ve been trying to formulate in my mind the past couple of weeks.
So, what is this message? Well, a couple of weeks ago when I was thinking about how to tell my DH and DD what I wanted for Christmas/the New Year was to “turn over a new leaf” as a family so-to-speak, I came up with this way of framing the message. I told my DD, “I want to be a family that takes care of our things.” And it seemed to click with her. So, I told my DH the same thing and it seemed to click with him (he even made the bed and cleaned out his car yesterday!). It was so simple, but so much more positive than saying what I wasn’t liking about our lives. So, I’ve been trying to come up with three “core” things – the first is being a family that cares for our things. I’ve been trying to figure out the second and third. I know I want one of them to have something to do for “doing for others,” but I have not figured out the phrasing yet.
So, anyways, this morning I came across this article from James Clear and I felt like it was a message that I was definitely on the right track and I need to apply this same positive message to MYSELF. Who do I want to be as a person? “If you want to change your life, change your identity,” he says. And I realized that last night I commented on a blog post that I could relate to her “trying to figure out who she was,” and that I’ve been struggling with my identity for quite a while now. I don’t know if it is so much changing my identity as FINDING it, but it is key to achieving anything. “The limitations in your life are framed by the box of your mind. If you want a new life, then start building a new identity,” the article goes on. Yes. I have limited MYSELF in the box of my mind. I have limited myself by NOT having an identity. So, that was the FIRST message…
Then, immediately after that, I bump into this article on Mydomaine.com which at first seemed unrelated, but then the opening paragraph says, “…as anyone who has set out to achieve something knows, believing is more than half the battle. Believing can translate to achievement, and that’s some magic right there.” Yeah, believing you ARE who you WANT TO BE is the biggy. After knowing your identity, you have to believe you are just that! And then you can live it.
So, what does all this mean? What do I want MY identity to be? How do I start living that identity out as MYSELF? Those, my friends, are the questions I hope to answer, and answer confidently in 2016! I’m pretty excited as I feel like this is such a simple, but also complex thing to realize.