Simplicity Sunday

Simplicity Sunday #8 – Nothing is Routine

I’ve spoken before about how much of a problem I have maintaining a routine.  I have come up with many, many rationalizations as to why I have an issue.  But, really, it comes down to self-discipline.  But, man do I pay the price for that lack of discipline.  Right now, for example, I can point to the intense amount of cleaning I had to do over the last two days, the misbehaving dog (who really, really needs to exercise), my exhaustion (due to not eating right and not exercising), a 7 yo DD who has no real routine in her life either and struggles with that a bit, food that has gone bad because I didn’t make it in time, forgotten tasks, etc.

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So, I once again want to get a routine together and implement it on a regular basis.  I feel like it would mean a lot to do it now and have it in place for a couple of weeks before we have to have my DD’s surgery.  Often, when we come home from the hospital, things are just completely out of whack for weeks.  But, if we have a routine set up and then can come back to it, I think it would help immensely.  Because, in our lives, nothing is routine.  But we are in desperate need of routine.

So, we’re going to try it again.  I have a lot to do everyday.  But, here are some things I want to happen everyday:

  • Walk the dog for 20-30 minutes (it would make a huge difference for the dog and probably a huge difference for me…I could listen to a podcast everyday during that time).
  • Unload/load the dishwasher
  • Do a load of laundry from start to put away
  • Feed and water the animals (dog, cat and guinea pigs)
  • Make meals – breakfast and dinner (sometimes lunch)
  • Do something active with my DD (not like sports active, but play a game, do a craft, etc.) for 30 min to an hour
  • Shower, do hair, makeup and such – I really should do this everyday, but I don’t.  I think I would feel much better about myself if I did all these on a regular basis.  I just kind of let myself go and then I end up feeling horrible because I look horrible and have not woken myself up fully, etc.
  • 10-15 min pickup everyday (although, I really want to work on all of us putting things away when we are done with them – it is now my mom mission for March).

Now, I don’t have to do all these myself.  And when I list it out, it doesn’t seem like much.  In addition to these, I want a list of chores to do throughout the week so they get done, but they don’t need to be done daily.  Things like vacuuming, changing the beds, cleaning the bathrooms, etc.

The routines are printed out (mine, my DD’s and a daily/weekly household one).  I’m going to post them and go to bed early to read (okay, really play Candy Crush, but I may run out of lives and end up reading for a bit) and be ready for tomorrow’s first task – walking the dog!  I’m going to lay out her leash and choker chain and my clothes and just DO IT!  I’m tired of lacking in doing what I know needs to be done.  Wish me luck!

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Why Write?

I’ve asked that a few times.  That question is the reason my blog goes to the bottom of my list every time I get busy.  I don’t typically have a great reason for it.  I love the community that blogging creates.  I love that I see people “like” and comment on my posts over and over again and I feel like I’m reaching someone.  But, even minus that, I like to write.  I like the thought process.  I enjoy the result.  And this morning, I found this Medium article and it explained and justified and encouraged.

Although I would like to think that I will become one of those “famous” bloggers whose work is read by tons of people and whose faces you see all over the web and even on TV, I don’t write for that reason.  I write because I feel a desire to write.  I feel a desire to connect…with others, but more so with myself.

Lately, my biggest struggle is figuring out WHAT to write about.  And much of that has been driven by my feeling of a need to “brand” my work.  To have a purpose and a focus.  But, when I read this in the article, it made so much more sense:

“Elizabeth Gilbert discusses the concept of ‘creative entitlement’ in her brilliant book, Big Magic. In short, your own reasons to create are reason enough. Do whatever brings you to life. Follow your own fascinations. Create whatever causes you to feel alive. The rest will take care of itself.”

Yes…that.  Follow my fascinations (and they are many and often disconnected).  Do what brings me life.  Create what causes ME to feel alive.  It is like validation for my lack of focus and my love of random prompt memes.

And although my readership has increased quite a bit over the past year or so (thanks to those still following despite my irregular posts and especially thanks to those who take the time to click like or, even better, leave a comment), that isn’t what really matters in the end:

“Retweets, favourites and shares are arbitrary and the wrong reasons to create. This is your work, not an overly-filtered selfie. You should be doing it because you love it. When you look back on your writing in 5, 10, 15 years’ time, you won’t be obsessing over page views, you’ll just be glad you did it. Trust me.”

So, for all of you out there like me, wondering why you’re writing or for whom or letting your writing go to the bottom of the priority list because it isn’t “productive” work, remember that you can be writing for YOU and make it a priority because it is something you love.

Happy Sunday everyone!

 

Six Word Saturday

Six Word Saturday

Joining up with Six Word Saturday over at Show My Face this week.  I have so missed Five Minute Fridays and Six Word Saturdays!  Glad to be back.

Must clean, organize and declutter, oh my!

This weekend I am trying to get back to a stable space in our home and my life.  The past four weeks have been a bit of a mess.  The house is a mess.  My car is a mess.  My life is a bit of a mess.  But, this weekend, I hope to be able to turn all of that around.  So far, I’ve done some major cleaning in the living room and kitchen, but there is more to do.  But, at least I feel like I’m accomplishing something this weekend.  I am glad that February is over tomorrow.  It is ALWAYS the worst month for me.  ALWAYS!  At least it is a short one.

Five Minute Friday

Five Minute Friday – Morning

I am joining Five Minute Friday over at Heading Home and oh, how I’ve missed you.  I’ve missed writing, but more than that, I’ve missed reading!  This week, I discovered that Kaitlyn Bouchillon’s new books is out and there is a fun contest to celebrate!  I am looking forward to reading the posts from this week as well.  It is good to be back!

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This week’s prompt is an interesting one:  Morning.  So, here goes:

Morning to me is a time of peace, but also anxiety.

I often wake up around 4:30 a.m. for no real good reason and can’t go back to sleep.  I will usually attempt to go back to sleep and sometimes I can, but other times, by 5:15 a.m. or so, if I am not back asleep, I get up.  My house is peaceful in the morning.  The dog stays in bed.  My DD and DH are in bed.  Even the cat isn’t very active.  I can make a pot of coffee and enjoy the still.  Or, I can turn on the news and actually watch it without interruption.  Or, I can do some house chores at a leisurely pace while coffee brews and no one else is making a mess to counteract the chore I’m completing.  But, sometimes, my inner environment is not so peaceful.

Mornings are also a time for realizing all the things I have not done that should have been done the day before.  And although the morning is a good time for getting things done, I start off the day under a cloud of anxiety and deadlines.  Those mornings are still quiet on the outside and I can often accomplish what needs to be accomplished, but I often am already feeling somewhat anxious and tired by 7 or 8 a.m.  I much more like the peaceful, slow and simple mornings.

For that reason, I am trying to get ahead on things that need to be done. Quiet and still and peaceful are so much better than frantic and stressful!

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School Happens

Every semester it is the same thing.  I start out so on top of things, convinced I will be able to keep up with it all.  Then, slowly, things start to spiral out of control.  It usually happens around my house.  Piles start to form.  Papers, mail, clothes that need to be put away, stuff.  Next, grading.  I start to find myself with piles of papers or emails with things to grade.  Oh, and the to-do list.  That starts to pile up as well.  Emails get backed up.  Then, curve balls get thrown at me, but I can’t adjust because of all the piles.

This semester has been a bit better.  I haven’t let the grading pile up too badly yet.  I’m relatively on top of class prep.  But, oh there are piles.  My dining room table.  One of the couches.  Bean’s desk.  Really, any flat surface is fair game for a pile to form.  And they don’t even make sense.  On the dining room table right now is a Sorry game with a magazine on top of it and an envelope on top of that.  There is a ball next to that pile and then another pile mostly of mail items that have been opened, but need to be dealt with in some way.  Then, there is my purse that I’m not currently using because I’m using my work bag instead.  There are some little toys and jewelry from my DD’s birthday party two weeks ago.  On the couch next to me there is a set of “scratch off” cards and little stencils that go with it, my work bag, my DD’s princess bag that she wanted to take to school instead of her backpack today, a stuffed giraffe…

pacing a heart and myself

We found out last week, after a last minute trip to Stanford on Wednesday (my long day at work) that my DD needs a pacemaker.  It was not totally unexpected and the news of how they could do it was better than I thought it would be (no open heart surgery, just a small incision), but it still is a bit of a disappointment.  We will only be in the hospital over night (or at least that is the prediction – last time they said that we were in for four days).  It will mean more doctor’s appointments post-surgery.  It will mean a new thing to deal with.  And it is a new thing in her heart that isn’t working.

I am very happy to have this weekend off to catch up on housekeeping and class prep.  I am very happy to have a lot of weekends off this semester.  I need that.  For sanity.  For the sake of my house and family.

So, life is moving on.  I’m going to try to pick back up with the blogging.  I feel the need to write. Now if I can just MAKE the time!