Today is Tuesday. And in that, we can find some some truth. I would like to share some truths I’ve realized today:
First, others really can steal your joy, even from far away, if you let them. And I let them. I am currently at a teaching conference and really enjoying it. I am in a nice hotel room in San Diego, right on the Marina, eating really good food and feeling excited about making changes to my classes. But, I received an email about an issue that has nothing to do with what I’m doing here. Something that was somewhat outside of my control, but is still within my realm of responsibility. And more than the issue, was the way the message about the issue was delivered. Backhanded insult. Passive aggressive attack. Something to highlight past mistakes instead of current successes. And immediately, my mood changed. I was no longer enjoying the conference, but instead was caught up in a defensive response and feeling less than adequate. My joy was stolen by that email. I didn’t speak to anyone. I dealt with the issue as best I could. I resolved myself to “fix everything and make it perfect” so that I would not have to ever deal with this passive aggressive attack again. But, really, that isn’t possible. Mistakes happen, especially when you are dealing with a pile of crap on a plate that is way to small. So, I’m not going to be perfect. Instead, I need to figure out how to not let these passive aggressive attacks steal my joy. I have to figure out how to recognize that the insults are short lived and the amount of things I do are long lived. I need to take the delivery and dismiss the insults while dealing with the issue. But, it isn’t easy. It is NOT easy.
Second, San Diego is beautiful. If you’ve ever been to San Diego, you know this truth. There is beauty everywhere one looks down here. The water. The weather. The architecture. The art. The boats. The surrounding environment. It really is gorgeous. I think we’ll be coming back here for a family vacation at the end of summer.
Third, having a home town that I love. I really look forward to going home. I love my home town and it is so nice to love where you live and where I work. Even if you don’t love everything about your job, being happy to be where you ARE in the world is important.
So, what’s your truths for today?