For those who have been reading the blog for the past couple of weeks, you have read that I have chosen my “one word” for 2017 as “home”. I talk about why and what it means in this post. So, this campaign from Pine-Sol and Take Part grabbed my attention. As a word person, I love the idea of redefining “homemaker” (which is what I truly wanted my one word to be, but felt like it held too much baggage for me to embrace it for a whole year) and modernize it into #makersofhome. It really captures the sentiment I want without having to bring all the baggage along with it. I understand that homemaker is not a bad word in and of itself, but I still like the idea of redefining it from someone who cooks and cleans the house to someone who makes it a “home”.
The campaign itself is broad and the sentiment is lovely: “From a blended family with adoptive children to a single mom to a family with a special needs child, these stories show us that even as families have changed, love has not.” We’ve always shared love outside of the traditional family unit, but I like that we are not just recognizing it, but celebrating it with this campaign.
I do cook and clean. But, I often do it with resentment and frustration rather than as a way to “love”. I want to change that perspective. I want my homemaking to become more focused on being a maker of a home. I want my home to be welcoming and comfortable and cozy and a place where I can celebrate our family and our place in the world. And our house may change (we will most likely be moving in the next couple of years), but our “home” will remain the same. Right now, we don’t have a ton of space to host others or much money to invest in decorating and this is a rental, so we don’t have control or permanency to invest in renovation, etc. But, that isn’t what it’s all about. It’s about making this a home, in the cultural sense of the word discussed in this Smithsonian article rather than the dictionary definition, which isn’t nearly so meaningful.
A few things I have in the works to reach this goal:
- I asked my husband for picture frames for Christmas so I can do a gallery wall with our family photos. I have one in our stairwell, but it isn’t all that great and certainly is not updated at all. I think the last picture we have there is from two years ago and most are much older.
- I am starting to be more purposeful in my furniture choices. We basically live in a house of hand-me-downs. Some that I love and some not so much. First order of business is to replace our dining room table. I got my parents’ table when my mom passed away and although it is a beautiful antique that my dad refinished before he passed away, it is also completely out of place in our home. It is large, formal and the chairs keep breaking (with a seven-year-old and a larger husband, they just aren’t holding up). So, I’m going to keep my eye out for a good buy on a dining room table that is more our style. I’m also on the hunt for a coffee table. I like the open space in our living room without one, but we have problems finding a place to sit drinks and books and work and snacks. Anyways, I will look for something free or cheap (I got a great office chair free today off Craig’s List that I will use with my desk that I recently moved from my DD’s room to my room to give me a place to work other than the dining room table and the couch) and be patient.
- I had a chance to listen to a podcast today while running some errands and the one that popped up was the most recent Abundant Mama podcast with Katrina Kenison. I had never heard of Katrina Kenison before this, but she truly captured my imagination. Her story of waking each morning before dawn purely for the purpose of watching the sun rise and how she found out her mom did the same thing because “she didn’t know how many more days she had on this earth and didn’t want to miss one sunrise” just brought me to tears. The episode focused on her ability to find extraordinary in the ordinary and that, my friends, is what I truly want to make our home. A place where the ordinary is recognized as extraordinary. After all, with a daughter who had a heart transplant when she was 5 months old and has been through so much since then, every day really is extraordinary. We just don’t take the time or effort to recognize that much. I want to recognize it, not only in words, but also in actions and in our environment at home.
So, as I close this post, I am sitting in a living room with laundry baskets on our love seat and chair full of clean laundry that needs to be folded. Piles of student papers on the floor and one of the seats of the couch next to me (grades are due in four short days, so these will soon be gone). A dining room table piled high with a project of my husband’s and mail and papers from the past few weeks that have piled up there as we move them over when we want to eat or play games at the table. A bar that has Christmas decorations and boxes from Christmas presents and more items from my husband’s project (which he has promised to have cleaned up by tomorrow). The vacuum is sitting in the hallway where I used it earlier today. A blanket is on the floor, along with some shoes. It is by no means picture perfect, but it is a reflection of us. It is a home that we use (for projects and reading and folding laundry) and one that we snuggle up in (with blankets to keep us warm). The Christmas tree is blinking with memories on almost every branch. And my bulldog is snoring next to me. Would I rather our house be neat and tidy? Certainly. But, if it meant that we weren’t using it for things we cared about and loved and needed, than it wouldn’t be worth it. So, for now, I will take it. Tomorrow, it may get tidier, but somewhere along the way, it will get messy again. Perhaps even messier. But, if it gets more comfortable and it is well-loved along the way, than the mess doesn’t matter. We are making a home in the Smithsonian sense, not the Better Homes and Gardens sense.
I hope that your home is one of love and beauty and kindness in 2017. Please let me know in the comments what you think is the #makersofhome.